What Are You Waiting For?

Last Thursday, October 16^th, I celebrated my 2^nd National Boss’ Day as my own boss. When I opened my own consulting firm in May 2013 I was excited about the possibilities that lay ahead, and began building on that lifelong dream of owning my own company where I could make a difference in the daily lives of others.

It was a daunting goal, with many, many steps along the way, but I knew I could do it; I wanted to do it.

Since that time, there have been many positive steps forward in fulfilling my strategic plan, and a few steps backward. Some steps forward were planned, and others presented themselves unexpectedly. As I came upon those unexpected opportunities, the loudest voice in my head was that of a friend who constantly asks those with whom they come in contact – what are you waiting for?

What are you waiting for, indeed.

Recently, another friend announced that she was taking the same giant leap of forming her own company. As we talked about the courage it takes to make that decision and move forward, I found myself asking her many of the questions that were asked of me almost 2 years ago.

• What products or services are you offering?
• What is your target customer base?
• How will you reach/communicate with them?
• What makes your company different from all of your competitors?
• What will your brand look like?
• Tell me about your strategic plan and goals

Quite honestly, the decision to do something – anything – is the easy part. It’s the strategic planning and then execution that takes all your time, effort, and resources.

This is also the easiest place for you to get bogged down, and eventually question your decision to strike out on your own in the first place (or whatever the decision may be). Getting mired in the minutia can easily provide 101 reasons why you can’t do something today, next week, or next month.

So, how do you guard against the “I can’t do it right now because…” mindset? It’s easier than it seems; really. 

Whether you are your only employee, or you have 1,000+ employees, it is vitally important that you build a team around you that gives you the support to do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done.

You need a team of friends, colleagues, peers, and staff that will ask, “What are you/we waiting for?” You need people who are supportive of your efforts, and are not afraid to let you know that you may have taken an unnecessary or possibly detrimental side trip off the strategic path.

We’ve all heard that nothing worth-while is ever easy. However, that does not mean that every step forward has to be like pulling teeth from a dinosaur.  In truth, sometimes you just have to make yourself take that step. Sometimes you just have to tell yourself, “Today is the Day,” and move forward.

In 26 days I will achieve the half-century mark in age.  I’ll be 50. Whoohoo!!! I’m excited about Life After 50, and all the possibilities ahead. So, in writing this particular blog today, I once again have to ask myself, “What am I waiting for?”

What are you waiting for?

Before founding her own consulting firm in 2013, Dawn Gannon served as a respected project management and administrative operations professional in the military, higher education, and women’s healthcare fields for 25 years. She holds a Masters of Business Administration and a Graduate Certificate in Organizational Management from American Public University, is a contributor on LinkedIn, and the author of the Management in Motion blog.

Dawn currently serves as the Past Chair of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine’s Women’s Council, and teaches health and safety classes for the American Red Cross. As an infertility survivor she has been a featured speaker within the Fertility Community, and written numerous articles on the topic of childfree living. 

Keeping Your Work Environment Positive Begins Within You

EDITOR’S NOTE: This week, Management in Motion is pleased to welcome a guest blogger, Kristen Darcy, an award-winning author, fertility coach, motivational speaker and expert on the emotional aspects of infertility and other life challenges.

Do you realize that you might spend more time with your work family than your own family? Given that time creates a familial dynamic, do you sometimes wonder how you keep the peace at work without assuming a parental or sibling role?

Creating work place awareness or developing a culture by design begins within.  

Early in my career, I worked with an all women staff at my mother’s nursing home (nepotism and those issues comprise a whole other article). There were moments when the employees acted like sibling rivals. Most of the arguments were about who was going to wear the fancy white hairnets, which everyone originally perceived negatively. Then, employees started complaining when they didn't get that one white fancy hair net. Since we were all teens this made sense. We were all competing for the perceived wanted item. 

What was most disconcerting to me at the time was the "back stabbing" chatter, such as “Can you believe her?” “What’s up with that?” and so on.

Fast forward to when I opened my learning center. Once again, it was an all-women environment, though a more grown up version that still functioned like a family.  The atmosphere was littered with side bar conversations where one person was pitted against another or one faction opposed to another one.

Uniting the workforce, in my humble opinion, begins from the top down. It has to be cared for each and every day by each employee from the inside out.

The intent to do no harm and uplift the environment might be in the mission statement but how do you translate that into your daily interaction with your fellow employees?

Confucius’ statement, “Remember, no matter where you go, there you are” is a perfect mirror to create a work environment of peace.  

What bothers you the most about someone could be making you aware about an opportunity to work on yourself? For example, you might be critical of a coworker who is late, doesn't finish a project on time, or is a complainer instead of a solution provider.

What do these people trigger within you?  Do they trigger judgment, resentment, or frustration?  Ask yourself how you feel, and then follow up with: “What do I need?” Then you can focus on coming from a perspective of peacemaking, and offering solution driven action steps instead of complaining.

Once a well-respected, hard-working and caring teacher came into my office to announce that she just had it!  She was done with the chatter and sniping coming from another teacher.  That day my tolerance level was a bit low. Upon hearing the “same song, different verse” energy, I stopped what I was doing to bring the other well educated, caring, and loving teacher into my office, forcing the two women to have a face to face conversation. I was done with their negative energy.

That day, I learned there are unconscious patterns that trigger life experiences and play out in the work place.  Here’s the kicker. Most are not even aware that an old pattern or script is playing out, and that an autopilot response ripples out, creating unease.

I also learned it’s never about the other person and what they do, e.g., leaving five minutes early, leaving the lunch room a mess, fill in the description of the complaint.  It is the meaning you are assigning to these interactions that creates the lack of peace or positive energy. 

So, what do you need?  What are you feeling?  How do you create peace within so that it vibrates out into the workplace, family life, and world?

Did you hear your answer?  If yes, then what are you doing to nurture that need?

Peaceful working on you and your shadow parts (aka the triggers) creates peace in whatever environment you find yourself. 

So once again, “Remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”

Here’s some homework:

Take time to write down five things you like about your “work” you.  Perhaps it’s your organizational skills, your communication style, or maybe your ability to cut through all the minutia and keep everyone on task?  Write down the five you dig about yourself.

Now write down the five traits that irritate you the most about your co-workers?  What do they have in common? How can you look at the irritants and what can you learn about yourself to create peace?

Peace within ripples outward! 

Kristen Darcy is an award-winning author, fertility coach, motivational speaker and expert on the emotional aspects of infertility and other life challenges. Kristen also consults with fertility providers and organizations, teaching them how to attract and retain clients by emotionally treating patients and providing the ultimate patient experience.

Kristen is the advisor, supporter, and friend infertile women need. Kristen Magnacca was one of the first former patients and fertility survivors who addressed the mental and emotional crisis of infertility. She is the author of the groundbreaking Girlfriend to Girlfriend: A Fertility Companion (First Books Library, 2000) as well as the award-winning Love & Infertility: Survival Strategies for Balancing Infertility, Marriage and Life (LifeLine Press, 2004). Love and Infertility is the inaugural recipient of the Hope Award, Best Book Coping, from RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and 2014 is the tenth anniversary of its publication.

Kristen testified before the US Senate in the spring of 2000 about the importance of government funding for fertility research and holistic treatment. She has been highlighted in national publications and broadcast media including NBC’s The Today Show,Woman’s World magazine, PBS’ Health Week and The Boston Globe. She also is a former board member and volunteer for RESOLVE of New England. 

Learn more about Kristen at www.kristenmagnacca.com.

  

Sleep is Over-rated

EDITOR’S NOTE: This week, Management in Motion is pleased to welcome a guest blogger, Johnny Slater, founder of Lochshire Technology. 

For the last few weeks I have had an extreme problem with being able to sleep. I just can’t make myself sleep, no matter that I walk around completely exhausted.

I'm beginning to understand why. I feel something growing inside me that once was there but has been missing for a very long time. I have become aware of a growing sense of passion and restlessness regarding my long absence away from the online work I started so many years ago.

Three years ago I stepped away from everything I was doing to take care of my wife. It was something that I needed to do, and I did gladly without any regret. I always put my family first above all else, so there was no question that my wife and her needs would come before mine.

However, recently I have had the opportunity to slowly dip my foot back into the waters and take small steps towards rebuilding what once was. The restlessness is the fact that I have been away for so long that I just can't wait to get back into it full time and my mind just can't stop coming up with new ideas.

The passion is that it is something that I love doing and something that I was born to do. I love the freedom that having an online business affords me, and the ability to run a business and still be here for my family means more to me than anything ever could.

Life has a way of throwing roadblocks in front of you and most people tend to get bogged down instead of finding ways to go around. My sincere wish for everyone who reads this is that you find your passion and follow it, where ever it may lead you. Get out of your comfort zone and follow your dreams.

Don't let setbacks and roadblocks

stop you from following your chosen path.

Look for ways to go around, above, or under any situation that stands in your way and be prepared to have to put your travel on hold for a time every once in a while.

However, never sacrifice your passion. If you have to take time off from what you want to do to take care of what you need to do that is completely fine, but never completely walk away from your dreams.

If you step away for a time and then come back later, you just might find you get even more from your path and you appreciate it even more for having to step away for a time.

I can't describe the feelings I have been experiencing lately. I am full of a renewed sense of who I am and what I want to accomplish with my life, and I hope everyone could feel the sense of renewed self confidence that I have begun to experience.

I think I have rambled enough for someone who hasn't had a decent night’s sleep in a week, so I guess it's time to try to get 2 hours of sleep before I need to get the kids up for school. 

Goodnight to all. 

Johnny Slater is a programmer, internet marketer, and founder of Lochshire Technology, an ecommerce solution firm. From simple single purchase scripts to total membership solutions, Johnny has spent years creating software that is easy enough for beginners to use, but also has the power that veteran marketers need. He not only creates some of the most powerful solutions available, but backs them up with a level of personal customer support not found anywhere else. Find out more about Johnny and Lochshire Technology at https://www.facebook.com/lochshiretech

The 102-Year Dream Comes True

According to Webster’s Dictionary, the term persistent is defined as: “lasting or enduring tenaciously.”

Or, in the words of Helen Keller, “We can do anything we want as long as we stick to it long enough.”

Over the weekend, my high school alma mater, Forrest County Agricultural High School in Brooklyn, MS, won its first 4A high school football championship.

Founded in 1911 and located just a few miles south of Hattiesubrg, MS, FCAHS has been to the state finals many times, but never made it out of the early rounds. Finally, 102 years after opening its doors, the 2013 team made the familiar trip to Jackson, MS once again, and was finally crowned as the state champion on Saturday, December 7, 2013. Now that’s persistent!

From a management perspective, I have witnessed upper and middle management teams persistently follow a course of action without regard to new information or overnight changes in the marketplace. 

For instance, don't keep going up the middle if the offensive line is having difficulty creating openings. We've all seen teams who continually do the same thing, with the same unsatisfactory results. 

I’ve also been fortunate enough to be a part of management teams that remained persistent, but were open to change in order to achieve a stated goal; even if it resulted in following a path that was completely different than what was originally designed. In each of these cases, the team achieved or exceeded their goal.

Like a football coach, management teams not only need to keep an eye on the game plan, but winning also requires sufficient attention being paid to the changing conditions on the field in terms of weather, players, and momentum regardless of the time it takes to reach the goal. In business, the climate in which an organization operates can work either for or against you.  Obviously, FOR you is best.

Likewise, the importance of knowing your customers, your competition, and your team’s strengths and weaknesses is as vitally important as making bold decisions to change the market momentum in favor of your company.

As a business leader it is essential to think long-term, while acting to meet a short-term goal, such as the next 1st down, which eventually results in a touchdown. Be brave, call an audible and look for other options; more than likely one or two others are wide open.

The most important factor, however, is being persistent. Keep your eye and efforts on the goal, no matter how long it takes, and don’t forget to celebrate your successes along the way, or you could lose focus by wallowing in what might be perceived as failure.

 As 2013 draws to a close, and your plans for 2014 begin to fall in place, keep the persistence of the 2013 FCAHS Aggies Football team in mind. Even with more than a century of setbacks, they continually reviewed their plan, assessed their environment, talent and competitors, and eventually attained their goal.

By the way, if you are interested, the Oak Grove High School football team, coached by NFL great Brett Favre and also located a couple of miles outside Hattiesburg, MS, won their 6A state championship on Saturday as well. Check it out here. 

Without the persistence of an entire team coming together to work as one, neither team would have won. 

Congratulations, Aggies, for a great season! I’m so proud to be “Once an Aggie, Always an Aggie!!”

Before founding her own consulting firm, Dawn Gannon served as a respected management professional in the nonprofit military, higher education, and healthcare fields for 25 years. As a Lean/Six Sigma Green Belt, Dawn’s commitment and personal mission to improve the lives of others through service to the community focuses on providing administrative and volunteer management, consumer education, public outreach, event planning, relationship-building efforts, and strategic planning. She is also a published author on the topic of childfree living.